Circle Of Influence – Stay In Control During The Corona Pandemic
It’s an unusual time that we are currently in, that’s something we can probably all agree about. The way I see it, we have a mission to come out of this pandemic better than we went into it. Not just in the bigger picture of us as humanity; let’s not forget about ourselves on a more personal level. Like, you and me as individuals. If that sounds like something that makes sense to you then this blog will be right up your ally.
In his book “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People”, Stephen Covey talks about the Circle of Influence. Although I gave away the book to a friend long ago and couldn’t even list you the 7 habits if you asked me to; that one model has always sticked with me. Now more than ever, it helps me to not only stay sane but even keep working on myself in a positive way.
Are you someone who reacts to things that are happening to you, or are you more like someone who makes things happen yourself?
Circle of Influence
In Stephen Covey’s model there’s not just a Circle of Influence; there’s also the Circle of Concern and the Circle of Control. Before we talk about the differences between these three circles, it’s good to point out that not one of these is more important than the others.
For all circles goes, these are all things that do matter to you.
That being said, let’s talk about what the differences are;
Firstly, the Circle of Control are all the things you have full control over. You can change them with your own two hands, pretty much. Like what you eat and drink on a given day, who you spend your time with and whatever you do when you’re home alone. Others might have some influence like your husband cooking your meal or your wife wanting to watch a movie together, but it’s still you who is in charge of what action follows next.
Secondly, the Circle of Influence are those things that you have a certain amount of influence in, but are beyond your control. Your family life; whatever happens at work and even your noisy neighbour next door. Although there’s a of course a big difference in asking your neighbour to be more quiet or asking your teenage son; they’re still both outside your direct control. You can merely influence them.
Then third, the Circle of Concern are things that are still important to you yet you can not change with your actions or influence. The clouds opening up and ruining your family picnic does concern you a lot, but there’s absolutely nothing that you can do in that moment to make the rain stop all of a sudden. Although something could be said about us still having some minor influence, world politics belong to this circle as well. And so does the corona pandemic.
It’s about focus.
The point of Covey’s model is to help you become more aware of where your focus lies. Too much focus on the Circle of Concern may lead to you feeling powerless. Feeling powerless is not a good state to be in.
The more aware of this you are, the better you become in;
Changing your focus, and;
Taking back that power.
“Too much focus on the Circle of Concern may lead to you feeling powerless.”
Increase Your Awareness
Can you change the bad weather that is ruining your family picnic in the park? Nope. So what is the point in stressing out and feeling sad about the weather all day?
That does not mean you cannot do anything at all. Quite the opposite in fact. You might not be able to change the situation, but you certainly can change how you deal with it.
Many of us tend to forget that we do have a say in how we respond to setbacks like that. What if instead, you’d move the picnic inside and still have a quality day with your family?
Now that is what taking back control is all about;
You taking charge of your own life.
Can you change the current pandemic and get things back to normal? I wish you could but nope, you probably can’t make corona disappear overnight. But once again, we do decide how we deal with it.
Think about it; there are many things that you can still do. Some things now more than ever. Even entirely new opportunities that have opened up in this unusual time.
Rather than researching the latest theories and discussing illuminati’s evil plans, you could also use this time to learn more about yourself and introduce new habits that will help you improve your life. Or you could pick up on long-term projects like writing a book or decluttering your entire house.
Once again; it’s all about focus…
… your focus.
Don’t get me wrong; there’s no judgement here. If you feel that you have a cause in standing up for freedom and world peace then please by all means, go for it. This is just a friendly reminder to become / stay aware of your focus. To keep yourself in check and ask yourself; am I still the captain of my own ship, or did I allow fear to take over?
“Like a ship sailing the seas, it’s probably better for the ship and its sailors that is has a captain who has control over the steering wheel.”
Taking Back Control
Like a ship sailing the seas, it’s probably better for the ship and its sailors that is has a captain who has control over the steering wheel. The same goes for you and your life.
Where do you have your focus?
Do you feel like you are in full control over your life or are you feeling powerless?
Should you feel powerless or helpless then perhaps it’s time to step up to the plate and re-take control over the steering wheel.
In my previous blog article I shared with you 5 reasons to consider joining the Ramadan. Although the month of Ramadan has just ended, this was a great opportunity to re-direct your focus. It’s never too late to take back control over your ship yet once again.
Missions are a fun and simple way to take back that control and do something that may actually help you improve your life. It doesn’t even have to be something big. In my next article I will share some simple missions that I have completed myself in the last few weeks.
Do you want to receive a personal mission just for you, then send me a message on social media or through my contact page.
In this article you learned about Stephen Covey’s Circle of Influence and how it relates to the pandemic we are currently facing. It may help you increase your awareness of where your focus lies and as a result, take back control.
Remember: it’s still entirely up to you how you decide to direct your focus.